Some stressful situations

Dear Lailah,
I know I just wrote to you a few days ago.. there was more on my mind to explain to you.
The past few months your relationship with Justin has been strained. Justin sometimes argues with you like he is 10 year old and you often become the mature one and you back out of the conversation by saying, "I'm not going to argue with you anymore/about this anymore" and you go in the other room or find something else to do.
I want you to know that I do not agree with Justin resorting into child mode with you and not acting as the adult he is - BUT I also understand WHY he does - that doesn't mean that I condone it at all.
I actually even almost left him over it. But Justin loves our family, he loves you, he loves your siblings, and he wants to TRY to be better. He has started himself in therapy and him and I have also started couples therapy. That is a HUGE step for him and for the benefit of our family. I hope that working with Justin through this shows you that I'm not taking his side.. but that sometimes good people struggle in life and they just need extra support - not to lose everything and everyone they love and care about.
I DO take your side - hence why Justin had to start therapy for himself and get help. We're also discussing him get further help by a psychiatrist and neurologist - and that's not because something is "wrong" with him that needs to be fixed... but we all have parts of us that we come to learn no longer serve us and we need extra help learning to grow out of those elements that had previously defined us.
When someone is blatantly abusive - threatening, punishing, physical harming, throwing things, slamming doors, breaking things, intimidation, etc... that is one thing. But Justin doesn't do any of those things to you - I absolutely under no circumstances would ever allow that behavior and if you ever ever described any of that to me I would take you and your siblings and leave immediately. Justin gets defensive and argumentative - he acts your age because he was never taught how to handle situations better - with time, therapy, and help from me, I am hoping he can improve on that. I have good faith that he can and he will - BECAUSE he does love you and he loves our family. He is struggling right now - as all humans do, multiple times throughout their lives.
There are many times I've been a less than stellar human and a lot of people abandoned me - besides Justin. And when I had met Justin and he was there for me - I flourished and I improved and I've come a really long way. Sometimes that is all we need - is support from a loved one.
I hope that you can understand this and why I am giving Justin this chance.
I love you both so much and I only want what is best for ALL of us - YOU and HIM included.

You're also becoming hormonal and it's not only difficult for him... and YOU, but also me too. You are also in therapy - you see a woman named Kathryn once a week. It's not just anxiety but I think you're also pretty moody and stressed out because your hormones are getting thrown all over the place. These next few years are probably going to become difficult for you and I am hoping that I can do my best for you as your mommy and help you through it as smoothly as I can. You've been getting a couple pimples here and there for the last year now... and yesterday you informed me that you thought you were accidentally peeing yourself a little bit.. but you aren't, you're starting to discharge - which is healthy and normal due to hormones increasing. It's started to get on your underwear and you are utterly disgusted by it lol. You definitely will not enjoy your period once it begins lol But I will be here for you and supporting you the best I can through all these difficult changes you will be facing. And I also will be here for you through anything that arises with Justin and I will always have your back. I might not always be the perfect parent - I am human, just as Justin is, just as you are, and just as every other human on the planet is. We unfortunately are never 100% in control of ourselves and definitely not over our emotions and impulses.. life is hard... best we can do is be there for one another and support those that we love and care for. I will always do the best I can in each moment - even if that means telling you "I can't right now... I am feeling stressed out, sad, hurt, overwhelmed etc... I need space/some time to myself." Or whatever...

Just please know that I love you.. You're my sweet girl and you always will be.

Love, mommy <3